... not always, indeed sometimes the abbruttisce; in the best of situations instead contributes to that sense of self-realization, expression of what we recognize such as quality, capacity, expertise, which is really important for the wellbeing of a person. In many other cases, the work we do is the best we can compromise between several factors: skills, interests, comfort, compensation, contract terms, and so on. This banal everyday life, the one evoked by two people who are acquainted with the usual questions: what do you do?
As it happens, but this IS NOT MORE 'everyday life for many people for whom their work, more or less satisfying, was a certainty, but no longer is.
I can think of two ways.
One, the young new graduate or recent graduates (new graduate more easily, let's say), which is not a job that can be said, not fixed, but pretty sure. The feeling of instability, such as a house without having to make bricks - and the metaphor is very apt, because buying a home is one of the most common problems for people over thirty years. The instability would be a small thing, if it were not so protracted. And 'well-known that the human being can withstand very intense sources of stress for short periods. The instability, or uncertainty, is a source of stress, as it poses many questions on the immediate future, and these questions relate to basic needs such as food, clothing, sleep in un posto decente (bisogni fondamentali, insomma, premessa a qualunque altro tipo di soddisfazione).
Lo stress diventa altra faccenda quando è prolungato nel tempo, e soprattutto quando non sappiamo se e quando avrà termine. In particolare, diventa un effettivo rischio per la nostra salute; lo stato di stress comporta un aumento dell'attivazione simpatica che a lungo andare può associarsi a patologie mediche importanti ( ad esempio patologie cardiovascolari).
Vi è poi un'altra prospettiva: quella di chi ha lavorato per tutta la vita, e conta gli anni che mancano alla pensione, quando potrà coltivare passioni, attività da fare nell'agognato tempo libero, con i figli adulti e nessun debito sulle spalle. Se questo è il progetto per il futuro, arriva un evento che lo manda in frantumi, mettendo tutto in discussione (un libero professionista che, dopo essersela cavata per 30 o 40 anni, fallisce); è il crollo della certezza. Il pilastro attorno a cui è stata portata avanti la propria vita, che probabilmente è anche il supporto economico dei propri figli, viene a mancare. Immaginiamo di stare ben seduti sulla nostra sedia, arriva una scossa di terremoto e si aprono le crepe sul pavimento; un crollo è probabile ed imminente. A questo punto ci si rende conto di quanti anni della propria vita sono stati imperniati su quel pavimento crepato - questo il pensiero sul passato, seguito a ruota da quello sul futuro, quadro a tinte vivaci che ad un tratto sbiadisce, le forme diventano indistinguibili, i colori si miscelano finché il tutto prende una sgradevole tonalità di marrone. Non è tanto l'assenza di speranza a colpirmi, ma la disperazione, la frustrazione, nel constatare di aver costruito un palazzo che non sta più in piedi. La rabbia, anche. La depressione è un rischio comprensibile; la depressione è contraddistinta, tra le altre cose, dal non vedere speranze nel futuro, che si tinge di nero. Non si vedono soluzioni o scappatoie. E' una depressione reattiva ad un evento traumatico, ma l'effetto non cambia.
Se questi sono due casi emblematici, vi è tuttavia un'altra sfumatura, che rischia di passare inosservata; ed è il rischio Very deep not to push yourself to do work that represents, at least in part, the opportunity to test skills and aspirations. This risk seems particularly high for people with degrees, because the addresses of companies offering job opportunities very limited degree, or at least refer to a market size of the labor scarce compared to demand. The result is alienation, the feeling of a task in which it is only mechanical agents. And I'm not talking about the work on the assembly line. The perspective is rather reversed: the technique works much more easily in a field that requires putting into play of its powers, than many people with degrees who end to do a job far away from their skills and knowledge.
The risk for those in this condition of alienating work, as completely unrelated to their self-image, you do not have voice, speech, stifled by the imperative to be grateful for a job. There is no room for complaint, for these people, and if a different allocation at the macro level of importance is understandable and acceptable (because without any work can find even the basic needs satisfaction), at a psychological level this problem is worthy of care. Attention
first by those who find themselves involved, and feels stifled by the voices around him, such as' Are you happy to have a job? ',' We are proud of you ',' You have a nice house ',' You're lucky because you can afford a car or a holiday ', or' I do not know what I'd give to have a such as your place '. The sense of alienation at least deserves to be recognized and expressed at the right time (I will not go with a friend who can not find work for months or can not afford a holiday ...), with those people who are friends and that know how to listen. Often there will be practical, but be aware of and afford to feel anger, sadness, despair, boredom, is an important step for the psychological well-being. If you can not change jobs, there may be other solutions, how to compensate for carrying out some activity in their free time very rewarding.
Attention also in society: listening and not blame. I believe there are many people in this situation, but the emergencies that arise at the macroscopic level cover this discomfort, but also the de-legitimized, according to the idea moralistic and 'parental' that we should not complain because some people are worse off. When you're a kid, you eat a food that you can not just swallow, and the grandmother says, 'Think of children dying of hunger', can you think of it, to those children, but that food is still not andarti down, why you do not like.
like saying that if I broke a finger and you have a leg, I comprendo te che soffri di più, ma ho comunque bisogno di curare il mio dito, o quantomeno di poter dire che mi fa male, senza sentirmi rimproverare per questo.
dott.ssa Valentina Cozzutto
da http://nessunconiglionelcappello.myblog.it/
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