What happens to the couple after the wedding?
E 'natural that we take expectations of the most important events in our lives, and marriage is really one of the most important steps and feel the life of a person and a couple.
What happens to the person who gets married does not coincide with what happens to the couple, who embark on a journey of life together form a new nucleus, which has different rules and a different culture, but the couple are still two people, who need to keep intact their individual world, with its culture, its norms, its spaces, its emotional vocabulary.
For this reason they are so important to expectations of the couple on their marriage, expectations of which, sometimes, do not talk enough, are being left between the lines, as if they were granted. If d to one side the differences between the partners are the basis of most problems in the report, are also the reason which the human being chooses to live in pairs through the diversity of the other because we can evolve, change, learn something more about ourselves.
Marriage is an event full of meaning, which gives us the opportunity to experience very intense emotions, the memory of which enriches our history and of individual couples. Nevertheless, it is important that all the meanings of this passage are to be compared before the wedding.
The stereotype is so widespread, for which the spouses have no doubts or fears or doubts whatsoever when they decide to get married, it's really not very useful, for at least two reasons. First, a comparison of healthy and conscious can really help us get serene marriage, knowing that it has already successfully tested our understanding and acceptance of differences of others, and also knowing which requests will then be met by our partner or our companion, also overcome with a difficulty or misunderstanding is one of the rewarding experiences in the life of a couple, and allows us to experience more intensely the love we feel - and why not? revive it and make it grow more and more.
Too often those who have just married is found to deal with a reality that does not match what was expected , with the result of trying to recover through arbitrary choices space that feels it has not found, or that image of himself that he expected to get 'magically' through marriage (think of all the brides who suddenly change the hair, keeping hair down to the wedding, then cut very short, almost as if this aspect of femininity and seduction is no longer so important for a married woman).
Marriage can be an adult choice, conscious, developed through an on all aspects of married life, without thereby diminishing its emotional valence, leading instead to the intensity and happiness that come from facing with difficulties and uncertainties that inevitably there are a couple - two people, two worlds coming together to create something completely new.
psychological support may accompany the couple in this way. The goal is to focus on that which is our communicative mode, learning how to communicate what is important for us not confuse emotional and cognitive aspects, that is, for example, without a thought to communicate through emotion ( how many times you say a couple sentences like 'I do not see how this makes me sick? How do you not understand? '). At the same time, it helps us learn to discern those things which are connected to our daily lives, with emotions and thoughts that we have learned in the past but are no longer consistent in the context of everyday life, because a major cause of misunderstanding in the pair is due to put their requests in a manner learned in the past, but not appropriate to report that we have today.
remember that love does not mean telepathy, but requires learning to deal with maturity and awareness of our needs.
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